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There is this belief that mothers are the one person that has the right to their kids. A lot of these women tell people that it is their legal entitlement because they are the ones who bore and suffered for nine months until the delivery of their kids. But, is that enough reason to become over-insensitive towards the children’s emotional and mental development? Is that enough reason to validate mothers’ negativity and toxicity in children’s’ lives?

THESE SHOULD NEVER HAPPEN

Mothers Abandon Their Kids Without Explanations – Whatever the reason there may be, mothers should not abandon their children no matter what. Not only will the circumstance create damages to the emotional and mental health of children, but it will also affect their view of the people around them. Children will become less concern about others’ feelings since their mother neglect and abandon them.

According to James Sorce, PhD, and Robert Emde, MD, “In an ambiguous situation, a mother’s physical presence but emotional unavailability engenders displeasure and inhibits her child’s exploration, whereas her emotional availability has a significant effect on the infant’s affective, social, and exploratory behaviors.”

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Mothers Strictly Decide For Kids’ Future – One of the things that most inconsiderate mothers do is deciding for their kids’ future. It is acceptable that parents have the right to say no when their kids’ behavior and actions are hurting their future. However, there is a restriction to that part. Mothers should not decide for their kids because success is never achievable when things associated with it get poorly executed. Meaning, when kids are not confident in doing what they do, they will never reach their goals no matter how much they try and pursue it.

Instead of weighing your child with expectations, child psychologist and mother, Francyne Zeltser, PsyD, said none of the decisions you make for your children are set in stone. She advised moms to pull back and observe, if you have been pushing them too hard, “You are your child’s best advocate and the ball is in your court. There is no “one size fits all” to education, so trial and error is your best bet.”

Mothers Control Their Kids’ Emotions – When children feel sad, they should be allowed to feel that way. Same goes when these children feel angry, agitated, and confused. It is very inconsiderate that mothers control their kids’ emotions only because they don’t want them to become open about their weakness. So instead of mommies trying to take care of their kids’ emotional well-being, most of them deprive the young ones of self-regulation. This circumstance will not only affect kids’ emotional part but also damages the psychological aspect too.

Not Allowing Their Kids To Become Who They Want To Be – Most mothers are authoritative. In most cases, they are more in control with their kids’ life decisions compared to some fathers. The particular issue creates an impression to children that their lives are not theirs. Most mothers do not care and often think that what they do is only for the benefit of their child.  They did not know that not only they take the children’s happiness away; they also become the cause of these kids’ unfortunate overall imbalance.

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Mothers Love The Kids With Certain Amount Of ConditionsA mother’s love is unconditional. It does not take anything in return, especially from their children. However, when there are cases that mothers want their child to repay their sacrifices, then that is not an appropriate way of loving. It is the parents’ responsibility to take care of and love their children without anything in return.

Love may be reciprocal, but always consider there are more appropriate ways of showing love. Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, said a parent’s example of love and gratitude trickles down to children, so when parenting gets too tough remember: “Do what you do for your kids with an open, generous heart or don’t do it. Don’t expect that you’ll be repaid with effusive gratitude or even good behavior.”  So if it is not like that, then perhaps it has nothing to do with love.

Even though people think they know so much about life, there are a lot of discoveries that need understanding. That includes knowing the things that mothers are not allowed to do.