Being a mom is a life-long responsibility. It brings too much pressure as it brings so much joy. It is not every day that things go as planned. However, whatever the circumstances are, mothers only want nothing but peace and happiness for their kids. Admittedly, not all mothers’ actions and decisions are well-accepted by the public and by their family. But for me, I want my kids to learn things based on their understanding from what I am trying to impose in their lives.
It Is Okay Not To Be Perfect
As a mom, it takes a lot of pressure when your kids look at you as an example. These young ones assume that since you are the “mom,” you know almost everything. Yes, parts of it can be correct. But not always, though. There is no room for perfection in life, so being imperfect is genuinely okay.
Jill Leibowitz, PsyD, wrote, “Even if we aim to be perfect parents, inevitably, we will fail. Minor failures are not just unavoidable, they are a necessary and intricate part of our children’s development that propel them towards a sense of agency.”
Sometimes, a lot of people, young ones and adults, aim for the better versions of themselves. That is entirely acceptable. As long as people realize that the acceptance of one’s flaws is part of the process of becoming a genuine individual.
Hence, Lisa Brown, PsyD, said, “If children regularly respond to disappointments with negative self-talk that is out of proportion to the particular disappointments, this can lead to avoiding certain experiences as well as a lack of motivation to persevere in the face of difficulties.” Kids should love themselves and be proud of who they are, no matter whatever imperfections are there.
No One Deserves Mistreatment
There is a slight difference when you teach your kids to fight back or just let go of things. What most parents would want their children to do is become humble and always considers the best of things. But that is not often the case. There are instances that children need to fight back and defend themselves. Not everyone is gifted and given the ability to handle stressful situations. For some mothers like, we want our kids to learn the importance of taking care of themselves in a better way. No one wants to get mistreated, and no one deserves that as well. But if the case is bullying, I would encourage my children to speak up and stand for themselves no matter what.
“If the child learns not to speak up but to “take what you’re given,” then we are instilling a loss of voice that can give rise to responses ranging from simple objections to major ones,” wrote licensed clinical psychologist Francine Martinez, PhD. She added, “If children show fear in speaking up for themselves, they might allow resentment to build in future relationships.”
Love Doesn’t Always Have To Hurt
Understanding that children will soon grow up and enter a relationship is one of the scariest things mothers can experience. Not only because they will engage in different types of personalities, but children will also undergo self-adjustments as well. But one thing these young adults must take into consideration is the idea of love. I would never want my kids to look at love as damaging, exhausting, and an unfulfilling thing. As much as possible, these kids should realize that love doesn’t hurt at all. All it brings are respect, support, understanding, encouragement, and motivation. So if it is not something like these at all, then no one is sure what it is.
Not all mothers understand their responsibilities. Some are only taking for granted the role they have and just because they are parents, most of them think they are right. Perhaps, most of them are right. But motherhood is not always about being correct. Sometimes, these parents’ mistakes are just as valuable.