Not all pregnant women may experience moodiness, but what if you do?
Some women are afraid to tell they are significant others about the real status of their mental health because of fear of ruining their relationship. But it is hard to escape the mood swings of a bipolar woman. Signs and symptoms will eventually surface during pregnancy. You may experience it during the first trimester, second, or third trimester of your pregnancy, and even after giving birth.
It is the fit of anger that is hard to control and may present itself in many forms, maybe hot rage to deep-seated bloody resentment. And the worse thing is, it is often irrational anger. You can be the angry beast the moment you wake up or even before you sleep. It seems like there is another creature in you that you live with, fights with, and hate. And it is your hormone that is to blame.
It sounds eerie, but it is true that hormones cause you to be another person, brings out your fallacious maternal instinct. Often, overthinking leads to these angry outbursts that can make you look crazy.
Keep Your Cool
When you notice you are turning into this angry beast, try talking to a psychiatrist to know how to control yourself. “Cooling off becomes our first priority,” Mike Brooks, PhD, advised. “Otherwise, we will likely regret it.”
Learning to calm yourself down is necessary for you and your child’s health. It is one reason why you should disclose your history of bipolar disorder to your partner so he will understand the changes that are happening to you and may even help you in controlling your anger outbursts. He can remind you to relax and take a breather.
Talking to other moms with a history of bipolar illness like you – through online and dates – can also help you compare notes and make fun and laugh at each other’s nuttiness. It will make you realize that it is normal to get angry at a manageable level.
With the chaos that each day brings, keep time for yourself to relax. Pampering yourself once in a while especially after a tiring day of taking care of the baby can help you change the way you think and distract yourself from anger flareups.
Healthy To Be Angry
“First we must acknowledge that some anger is a valid, necessary, appropriate and unavoidable human emotion,” wrote Stephen A. Diamond, PhD. “It is not a question of whether we experience anger as much as how we deal with it.”
Know that anger is a healthy emotion, an innate rage neurocircuitry in the brain that responds to your different feelings. What is alarming is when you could not control them. We all get frustrated, hurt, annoyed, disappointed, and feel harassed, and anger can help us release these different feelings. It is just that you have to express your anger appropriately to achieve your goals and solve the problems that cause your anger. To a pregnant woman, it can be a feeling of wanting to protect herself and her baby. Ignoring and failing to understand your anger will only lead to a variety of problems.
Bad Effects Of Uncontrolled Anger
According to the psychiatrist, your baby experiences the world first through you. Both the external stimuli and the different emotions you feel trigger the release of certain chemicals into the bloodstream. These chemicals go through the baby by passing across the placenta within seconds the moment you experience a particular emotion.
American Psychologist Association released a statement saying that anger goes together with physiological and biological changes. A rise in blood pressure and heart rate occurs when you get angry, and the release of energy hormones -adrenaline and epinephrine – contributes to tension and blood vessel constriction. Constriction of blood vessels reduces oxygen supply to the uterus which compromises fetal blood supply.
Unmanaged anger may cause you to have a stillbirth or premature birth. Premature babies can be susceptible to a wide range of complications later in their lives, such as chronic lung disease, developmental delays, and learning disorders.
When you suppress your anger, it may cause you to have anxiety and depression, which may worsen your condition. Angry outbursts brought about by your bipolar disorder are the dark side of becoming a mother you would not want others, especially your partner, to see.
“Managing anger well is a learned behavior, requiring practice and persistence,” wrote Ilen D. Cohen, PhD. The psychiatrist can help you recognize, understand, and manage your anger the healthy way. That is why it is essential to consult a psychiatrist when you are aware of your history of bipolar disorder when you get pregnant and even after giving birth to ensure excellent well-being and safety for you and your child.