Being a mom to one child is difficult – so imagine having two kids without a husband; this is why I joined the 2018 Single mom Conference. I had to learn more about how to raise my kids since they are multi-racial, one of the many topics in the conference.
Motherhood brings a lot of happiness and a ton of pressure. You start to worry about much stuff, such as the baby should always be in perfect shape, the sweats, the diapers, the milk, the smell – everything should have to be perfect. Trying to be the perfect mom makes motherhood a crazy journey.
My mother had a history of bipolar illness, that is the reason why my doctor advised me to undergo therapy to be able to handle the possibility of having mood swings right after or weeks after giving birth.
During my pregnancy, I gained a lot of weight. I knew that I needed to eat more for my baby’s health’s sake and for me, of course.
At times when I could feel my baby kick, I would be so elated and excited that she’s growing up inside me healthy and strong. I would sometimes caress my tummy with my hands in front of the mirror and talk to her. I could say that she’s happy inside, too, but as I looked at how I big I got, worry started to peep in, and I got anxious. Will I get back to how I was before?
“As any woman who has ever been pregnant knows, there is an intense focus on weight throughout pregnancy,” clinical psychologist Alexis Conason, Psy.D., wrote. “From the first visit with your OB when you step on the scale and are given a prescription for how much weight to gain, all the way through the postpartum period when your body is scrutinized for how fast you drop the baby weight, pregnancy can be a difficult time for even the most body confident woman.”
Most siblings adore each other and can be best of friends, but other children always seem to fight. Fighting is normal for siblings, according to psychologists, and is also common in every household. One minute, they love each other and the next thing you know, they’re fighting with all their might. Do not worry about this; it is alarming but very normal.
Sibling rivalry can start even if there is no other child born yet after the eldest. And as they grow older, siblings tend to fight for attention from their parents. Jealousy will start between, and they will be comparing themselves from one another – what they don’t have that the other sibling has and vice versa.